{"id":27781,"date":"2020-07-17T12:45:00","date_gmt":"2020-07-17T16:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/?p=27781"},"modified":"2020-07-11T23:56:56","modified_gmt":"2020-07-12T03:56:56","slug":"anniversary-celebration-on-facebook","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/2020\/07\/17\/anniversary-celebration-on-facebook\/","title":{"rendered":"Anniversary celebration on Facebook"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>A recent Facebook post:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1351\" height=\"927\" src=\"https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/image-15.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-27782\" srcset=\"https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/image-15.png 1351w, https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/image-15-1024x703.png 1024w, https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/image-15-300x206.png 300w, https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/image-15-768x527.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1351px) 100vw, 1351px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>(Text: &#8220;15 years ago today my then-wife demanded a divorce. I think it shocked her when I walked out of that house a few minutes later, never looking back. Much was lost in that moment. Much was gained.&#8221;)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Representative comment:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>We\u2019re all here to learn! I know you\u2019ve learned a lot and have had another chance to be a wonderful husband and father!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>I have had a chance to talk to this guy in real life a bit. He is unaware of whether the wife-turned-plaintiff is dead or alive. He also hadn&#8217;t spoken with a child from that marriage for many years and was unaware as to whether the child, who would have been an adult at that point, was dead or alive. 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