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Most of the customer support notes that I get from people at Linode, where this blog is hosted, are signed &#8220;Joe (He\/Him)&#8221;, &#8220;Mary (She\/Her)&#8221;, or similar. To avoid the cross-pronoun situation above, wouldn&#8217;t it be better to sign &#8220;Joe (He)&#8221; or &#8220;Mary (Her)&#8221;?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Part of an email from our local public school (in which, thanks to the First Amendment, there is no possibility of insisting that people follow an established religion&#8230;):<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/image-18.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/image-18.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-30787\" width=\"441\" height=\"78\" srcset=\"https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/image-18.png 539w, https:\/\/philip.greenspun.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/image-18-300x53.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 441px) 100vw, 441px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The link goes to a Human Rights Campaign Foundation page, <a href=\"https:\/\/assets2.hrc.org\/files\/assets\/resources\/TalkingAboutPronouns_onesheet_FINAL.pdf?_ga=2.54430632.1424101350.1573062683-256605017.1573062683\">&#8220;Talking About Pronouns in the Workplace&#8221;<\/a> (why talk about work when you can talk about pronouns?)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A physicist friend lives in San Francisco and likes to have fun with psychology. 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