Your Thanksgiving devolved into a fight about Hillary’s foundation cashflow and Donald Trump’s statements about what women are willing to do for wealthy TV stars? It was a lot worse for the future General/President Grant. From American Ulysses: A Life of Ulysses S. Grant by Ronald White:
Ulysses and Julia seemed barely conscious of the internal tension beneath the surface of their happy wedding. She was the daughter of a slave owner. He was the son of an ardent antislavery father. Jesse and Hannah [Grant’s parents] decided not to attend the wedding.
Now that he was home, keeping his political views to himself, Ulysses planned to build a house, cultivate the land, and become a farmer. Julia’s father had given her sixty acres of uncleared land as a wedding present. With all his children married except Emma, Dent was eager to keep Julia nearby and offered help with equipment. The owner of more than twenty slaves, he gave his daughter three—Eliza, Julia Ann, and Dan—to serve as maid, cook, and houseboy. Ulysses spent a “pleasant” winter at White Haven, eager to begin farming in the spring. Ellen Dent orchestrated the delicate balancing act of providing hospitality for the joint household, but Colonel Dent did not hide his displeasure. All his other children had married well, yet Julia, his favorite, had married a man who at thirty-two seemed to have few prospects for success.