Valentine’s Day Post #3

From the front page of the New York Times, February 5, 2025:

The path to “the best sex” starts at the local family court, promises the front page. Does the article deliver?

In 2019, I divorced, at age 46, and went on to have more and better sex than I ever would have thought possible.

I had not imagined that the end of a 20-year relationship would mean a new era of high eroticism; I’d have needed to be delusional to think that. I was middle-aged, with two young children, a bunch of chronic illness and a bank account that was essentially handed over to divorce lawyers. My career was on life support, and after years away in bigger cities, I was back in my hometown, Montreal, enduring the kind of isolation that comes from exiting a relationship that has defined nearly half your life. Then the pandemic hit.

And yet.

Two of my friends ended marriages because of their own sexual dissatisfaction. Another divorced and became a card-carrying polyamorist. Two of my friends in their 50s are seriously dating people in their 30s, and a few others are, like me, divorced and engaging in sex practices they’d never tried before.

(Maybe the NYT story is based on some unpublished material from Bob Guccione‘s (RIP) Penthouse?)

7 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day Post #3

  1. Oh, please. The media these days are so off-putting, one has to be truly masochistic to read the NYT. Opening up the Penthouse (it still exists, apparently!) would be a distinct relief in comparison.

  2. I subscribe to the NYT but only read articles on topics that interest me, so I didn’t read this one. According to Catholic doctrine, it seems the author committed a sin (sex outside of marriage) but also performed a miracle (sex after 50).

  3. Does the article explain why any of these women couldn’t have started fucking their husbands with vigor and enthusiasm at any time during their decades-long marriages?
    Because it seems like they could have saved a lot of money and trouble if they had tried that first, instead.

  4. With their finances secured through a divorce from big shot lard asses, they’re free to bang men who are luckier in fitness than finances. That’s how it was with lions. Didn’t exist to any women under 40. After 40, they were willing to look at the little animals. The chronic illnesses after 40 were no fun though.

  5. @Philip, please, please — when will the next post be up? The image of this “victimized” woman, with her bright red lipstick and slightly open mouth, has sparked quite a few eye-opening reactions from folks passing by my monitor. Some even think I’m browsing OnlyFans!

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