My Facebook friends are still outraged that the current U.S. President used some undiplomatic words to characterize living conditions in some foreign countries. (“undiplomatic” = saying what you think!)
I think that I’ve found a young foreigner who can replace this old native-born American worker. This is from an au pair “host mom” discussion forum:
In response to question about being an AP with a single mom family, AP says “yes.” In response to question about a single father family, AP says “No. I don’t think it would be appropriate. Depending on why the father is a single parent, I don’t want to have the expectation to take on a role larger than being an au pair.” What sort of role does she think she’d take on??
If the Constitution permitted foreigners to run for President, I would vote for this young lady to be our Wordsmith in Chief!
Here’s some more fun stuff from the same list…
interestingly we know there is a single mom that hooked up with her AP Lol
I am really struck by the number of APs who don’t want to live with same sex families. Although I am straight, I use this question as a screen bc I don’t want someone living in my home who isn’t open and accepting to all my friends and family members, and who would potentially bring an anti-gay POV to my children.
I just think it’s their level of comfort not necessarily anti gay.
I am sorry but not sure I understand how that is different. Not homophobic just dont want to live [for a year] with a gay couple.
I also use the willingness to live with same-sex couples (and people of other races and religions) as a screening tool. I don’t want to live with someone who isn’t comfortable around all kinds of people.
we had some candidates who said they didn’t care about religion until they found out we were Jewish. We were shocked as one was from the UK and another from Sweden I think.
Drives me nuts when I find a good candidate who otherwise fits what I’m looking for but says they aren’t ok with LGBTQ. We have gay friends and Seattle is a supportive city for LGBTQ community and so I can’t take anything less.
I understand why young women don’t want to live with single dads. … I do not judge their discomfort with it though. I am very judgy on the other hand with APs who put a “no” to same sex couples, or have a preference for a particular sex. You are not comfortable with living with same sex, I’m not comfortable with you. Your age, where you’re from etc, doesn’t matter to me in that case. I only interview APs who would work with same sex couples. And what is it with APs not wanting to work with female couples? Do they think these women will make them googly eyes?? [Maybe the AP doesn’t want to work with statistically unhappy children?]
We also screened out boys as at first DH and I were not comfortable and later DS only wanted girl AP. Did that make us sexist I guess the answer would be yes for childcare. Do I love my husband, son, nephews, guy friends etc yes I am not a man hater but I never hired a male childcare provider.
I swear the AP life is a soap opera in our area–mom was getting high AP supervised visits of mom with kids, dad who walked into AP room drunk in middle of the night and tried to get into bed with her, AP and host mom hooking up, AP who knew mom was having an affair…
we had one who was privy to mom’s affair too. It was a disaster.
Separately, when did Americans become too lazy to type “my son” or “my husband” and need to use DH and DS?