Buried in the middle of “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back.” (New York Times, June 20; no-paywall version):
I’m 54. I’ve been dating since the mid-80s, been married, been a mother, gotten divorced, had many relationships long and short. I remember when part of heterosexual male culture involved showing up with a woman to signal something — status, success, desirability. Women were once signifiers of value, even to other men. It wasn’t always healthy, but it meant that men had to show up and put in some effort.
As best I can tell, she sued Husband #1 and now has an entire op-ed in the NYT about being surprised at low demand to become Husband/Defendant #2. (The above quote can likely be summarized as “I was a divorce plaintiff and child support profiteer“).
The author is older than the world’s typical grandma. If she had followed Palestinian reproductive practices she’d be a great-grandmother at age 54. So the NYT may actually be running dating advice for great-grandmothers. The editors wisely disabled comments so that 50-year-old Leonardo DiCaprio can’t comment about preference for 19-year-olds.
Speaking of the climate change alarmist, here is DiCaprio recently in Los Angeles (Daily Mail, of course) while his 27-year-old girlfriend (recession indicator?) is out of town:
> I remember when part of heterosexual male culture involved showing up with a woman to signal something — status, success, desirability.
She doesn’t talk about how, in those times, a person who was at her present stage in life would have been treated.
TBF, it was a thoughtful piece. She was only lamenting about the past, not blaming anyone.
Mixed with some nagging and fault-finding. I thought it was pretty clear who was to blame, namely the usual suspects.
What an annoying article.
Hahaha! On re-reading it, I think you’re right!
There were too many contradictions in it like @paddy mentioned. Another one was the lack of vulnerability men show ‘these days’, here’s Bill Burr answering that question:
https://youtu.be/JUrMSK8XWFc
She wonders where the men went, after a half-century of girl-bossing and invading men’s spaces. She wonders about intimacy while freely admitting to many one night stands. Sometimes women like this write in such a way that it makes you wonder if what they really want is “fried ice”.